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Setting Goals at our Coaching over Coffee Event

Setting Goals at our Coaching Over Coffee Event

January can feel a bit like the Monday of the year, and it’s so easy to want to hibernate at home and put off setting your goals until the weather gets a bit warmer. Every now and then, we all need a bit of guidance to help set us up to follow the right path, so here at Finding Your Voice, we decided to hold an event which would do just that.

On Thursday 11th January, we met at Pride Park with 14 women to share a Coaching Over Coffee session. With the new year just beginning, we chose to hold the event around goal setting to help everybody feel more motivated about setting and sticking to goals this year.

The event, which ran for 2 hours, focused around powerful and thought provoking questions to help everyone review the last year,gain some clarity and formulate a plan of action for 2018. We began with a review of 2017, asking everybody to draw a timeline to plot their achievements over the last year. We asked:

What went really well?

What didn’t go so well or was particularly challenging? 

What did you learn, what can you take forward and build on?

Is there anything else you need to consider before you close the door on 2017?

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This helped to give us a perspective on where we are currently and where we would like to go from this point.

Interestingly- though not surprisingly- most people found it a lot easier to remember their challenges and mistakes than their achievements. This is because our mind is programmed to look for risk to help keep us safe, therefore often focuses on the negatives, however this isn’t very helpful!  At Finding Your Voice, we help you to re-train the brain to focus on the positive, stay on track for 2018 and reach those aspirations.

We then asked everyone to think about 2018. We asked:

what do you want to achieve,

what will your life look like in 12 months’ time?

How will you achieve this?

What do you need to do to support your goals?

Who could help or support you to move forward?

This allows us to begin to create a vision of what 2018 will look like and what we would like to achieve. Many women also found this exercise difficult! Self-limiting beliefs and doubts, such as ‘I’m not sure what I want’’, ‘‘what if I change my mind? and

’I don’t have the confidence to make changes’ are often common. The thing is, if you want to do something, then it doesn’t matter if you change your mind in the future, it’s all valuable experience and we are all on a journey – you decide where and how you travel. As Wayne Gretzky once said, you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

We ended the session with everyone reviewing their answers and setting some goals with dates in the diary to review and track progress.

Once our goals are defined it’s often a good time to illustrate them visually. Creating a vision board for 2018 is a good way to stay on track and manifest your future, make sure you hang it where it is clearly visible. Making a vision board is great fun and can be made using photographs, pictures from magazines, affirmations or inspirational quotes that resonate with you. We ended by talking about the benefits of sharing your goals and plans with friends, colleagues, partners, a mentor or coach, someone to hold you accountable and check in with you on your journey. It helps to work towards success together.

Our Goal Setting morning was a great success and we will be holding regular Coaching Over Coffee events to provide an opportunity to take time out to work towards those goals. We will hold you accountable but more importantly we will help you to  identify what’s holding you back when you aren’t where you intended to be. We provide lots of support but with  lots of healthy challenge too. Our next sessions will be held in April, July and October. If you would like to join an inspirational group of women to work towards you goals give us a call. Remember you become like the people you spend most time with so if you want to move forward do it with others who are moving forward too.

What is a Vision Board?

What is a vision board?

On the topic of the new year and setting goals, a great place to start is to create a vision board, to give you a physical idea of your ambitions. Visualization is one of the most powerful mind exercises we can do. It allows us to invest our emotions such as excitement into future goals, which means that we are more likely to stay on track and feel motivated.

At this point, you may be asking yourself what on earth is a vision board? Or how can I make one? A vision board is something you can create to physically show what kind of things you want to achieve in the future. The great thing about a vision board is that there is no right or wrong. Fill your ‘board’ (this can be anything from a piece of paper to a wall canvas) with pictures and words which inspire you and relate to your goals. For example, if your goal is to get a promotion this year, you may have images of things which represent power, metaphorical pictures such as somebody climbing a ladder and luxury items or holidays which you may want to spend your extra money on.

Although it’s completely up to you what you choose to fill your vision board with, it’s important to note that your board should focus on how you want to feel, not just on things that you want. Going back to the previous example, if your goal was to get a promotion, you may use words in your vision board such as ‘independence’, ‘success’ and ‘pride’, and use images which reflect these emotions. Using this emotive language helps to give you that emotional pull towards your goals.

It’s a good idea to put your board up in a place where you will see it often, such as on your dressing table or the kitchen fridge. When you create a vision board and place it in a space where you see it often, you essentially end up doing short visualization exercises throughout the day. Whether you believe it or not, we know that visualization works. Olympic athletes have been using it for decades to improve performance, and Psychology Today reported that the brain patterns activated when a weightlifter lifts heavy weights are also similarly activated when the lifter just imagined (visualized) lifting weights. Therefore if you visualise your goal, you’re one step closer to really making it happen!

On Thursday 11th January 2018, we will be holding a coffee morning about goal setting, and will be talking to you in more detail about how to create a great vision board. We’d love to see you there! For more information visit here.

Tips to set your New Year’s Goals

Tips to set your New Year’s Goals

Setting goals is really important for self-development, as well as raising our motivation levels and giving us a sense of purpose. The Christmas period gives us all some much-needed time off to relax, spend time with family and indulge in one too many mince pies! But as the new year draws closer, we may be starting to plan towards 2018, and how we want our life to progress. The new year is the perfect time for goal setting, as it is a time to review our past achievements from the previous year and anticipate the future. It’s definitely a time where we are feeling the most motivated, and we should use this to our advantage.

But setting goals can be a challenge. Studies show that a massive 92 percent of us who set New Year’s goals never actually achieve them! But why does this happen? Often, we can’t follow through with our goals because they haven’t been set following the SMART guidelines. This means that if the goal is too vague, doesn’t have a time limit, is unachievable or the results can’t be measured, chances are you’re not going to stick to it! So, how do we set a SMART goal?

  • Be Specific

When creating your new year’s goals, make sure you ask yourself questions such as who, where, why, what, how and when, so that you know exactly what you’re working towards. A good example is that if you want to lose weight (a common new year’s resolution!) you should set yourself a date and target, such as ‘I would like to lose 1 stone by the end of May’. Being specific also helps with motivation levels, as there is a clear objective to work towards.

  • Make sure your goals are measurable

Having measurable goals means that you are able to identify exactly what it is you will see, hear and feel when you reach your goal. The best way to do this is to break your goal down, therefore not overwhelming yourself with a huge task, and allowing yourself to anticipate the things you will achieve along the way. This means that you will have plenty of excuses to reward yourself as time progresses!

  • Set an attainable goal

Before setting your goal, it’s important to weigh the effort, time and costs your goal will take against life’s other obligations. In other words, your goal needs to be realistic! For example, setting a goal of being a millionaire by the end of the year (as great as it would be) may be setting yourself up for disappointment.

  • Be Relevant

In this stage, you need to make sure that your goal is specific to you and your ambitions. It’s easy to get caught up in the hype of society and other people’s goals, but make sure you are doing it for you and no one else, otherwise you’ll struggle to stay on track. You might be wondering how you know if your ambitions are truly your own. A way of finding out is to take a minute to imagine your ideal future. Picture what it will be- who’s in your life, where do you work, what does your house look like? Then think about your goal and consider if it matches up to your dream!

  • Think about time

Time is an important factor when it comes to goal setting! Setting a specific schedule for when each stage of your goal should be achieved allows your motivation levels to stay high, meaning you’re more likely to stick to your goal. Writing each stage down in a calendar will also help with motivation levels, as you are more likely to be checking your deadlines therefore thinking more frequently about your goals.

To read more about how to set goals (and actually stick to them!) head over to this post here.

If you would like to sign up for our coaching over coffee morning on the 11th January, which will be all about setting those new year goals, click this link!

Happy Christmas from Finding Your Voice!

Christmas, New Year

Happy Christmas from Finding Your Voice!

Now that Christmas is just around the corner, and the New Year is fast approaching, it’s the perfect time to review all your achievements over the past year. Studies have found that making progress towards your personal goals generates improvements in well-being, satisfaction and happiness.

Therefore, it can be really rewarding to look back on what you have achieved throughout the year, noticing what went well, what challenges you faced and what you will still be working towards in 2108. Doing this can give you a real sense of achievement and make you feel proud of how far you have come. If you believe that you have not progressed much, then use this as an opportunity to motivate yourself in 2018, and strive to achieve even more.

Here are some questions which you can ask yourself as you review your end of year progress:

  • Have I achieved everything that I wanted to achieve this year?
  • What have been my successes?
  • What have I not achieved that I would like to achieve?
  • What am I grateful for in 2017?
  • What was the biggest problem I solved?
  • What lessons have I learnt?
  • Did I have any break-through moments?

Going into 2018, you can ask yourself some further questions to prepare yourself for the new year:

  • What is my number one goal for 2018?
  • Who do I want to spend more time with in 2018?
  • What skills do I want to learn, improve or master?
  • Which personal quality do I want to develop or strengthen?
  • What do I want my everyday life to be like?
  • Which habits do I want to change, cultivate or get rid of?
  • What do I want to achieve career-wise?
  • How do I want to remember the year 2018 when you look back on it 1/5/10 years from now?

For more information on how our coaching workshops can help you in the new year, head over to the coaching section of our website, or book a place on our Coaching Over Coffee Event. Hope everyone has a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

My Authentic Self

My Authentic Self

Over the next few months, we will be choosing a different theme each week in which we will post videos, write blog posts and create statistics pictures about. Each topic coincides with something which is taught in our 6 workshops and is a really useful bit of information if you’re wondering what our coaching entails.

This week’s focus is My Authentic Self.

Philosophy Now says that becoming authentic is an individual mission, since each person has their own way of being human, and consequently what is authentic will be different for each individual. 

We all have different ways of presenting ourselves in different situations.  I’m sure we can all agree that we would act differently around our boss than we would around our friends. This means that it can be difficult to realise what our authentic self actually is.

To be our authentic self isn’t just about being honest, it’s also about being self aware, becoming more humble, and taking feedback from others. This process is long and constantly evolving- it doesn’t happen overnight!

 At Finding Your Voice, we run a coaching session all around My Authentic Self. We can help you to find your authentic self with a simple exercise:

 

  1. Take a few moments to relax and breathe deeply. As you relax, you will find it easier to unleash your imagination.
  2. Now, imagine another you standing in front of you. This is the most magnificent you that you can imagine. It is you at your very best – your authentic self!
  3. Take a moment to feel totally happy with your authentic self. Look at the way that the authentic you stands, breathes, smiles, walks and talks. Look at how the authentic you speaks to others and deals with problems and challenges and goes for goals.
  4. Now step into and synthesize with your authentic self. See through the eyes of your authentic self, hear through the ears of your authentic self and feel how great it feels to live life as your authentic self!

 

Once you have done this, you should have a more clear vision about who your authentic self is. For more information on what type of coaching we offer, head over to the home page of our website.

Week 7- Affirmations

Affirmations

Over the next few months, we will be choosing a different theme each week in which we will post videos, write blog posts and create statistics pictures about. Each topic coincides with something which is taught in our 6 workshops and is a really useful bit of information if you’re wondering what our coaching entails.

This week’s focus is Affirmations.

So, what are affirmations?

This refers to the emotional support and encouragement that we receive in life. This could be reinforcements from friends and family, such as verbal praise, or even something as seemingly insignificant as a hug. It can also come from ourselves, from within the voice in our heads which speaks to us. The more of it we have, the more we will flourish and reach goals and achievements.

Self-love in particular is very important. There may be times in your life- maybe you’re working on a project or goal – where you feel totally alone. If the voice in our head is kind to us, and motivates and encourages us despite setbacks, then we are more likely to achieve our goals.

At Finding Your Voice, we encourage you to use self-love on a regular basis. In our sessions, we will ask you to create a list of ‘I am’ statements, which are linked to your goals. These statements should:

•             Use the present tense,

•             State in the positive,

•             Keep it brief

•             Make it specific

•             Include an action word

•             Include a feeling word

•             Make affirmations for yourself

•             Add ‘or something better’

For example, if your goal was to achieve deadlines more quickly, your ‘I am’ statement could be ‘I am motivated.’. We will then ask you to read these statements out daily, visualise them, feel what you felt when you wrote the list.

For more information about our coaching sessions, head over to the group coaching section of our website.

Realising Your Values

Realising Your Values

Over the next few months, we will be choosing a different theme each week in which we will post videos, write blog posts and create statistics pictures about. Each topic coincides with something which is taught in our 6 workshops and is a really useful bit of information if you’re wondering what our coaching entails.

This week’s focus is Realising your values. 

Why are our values something which we should pay attention to?

Our values are important because they help us to grow and develop. They inform our thoughts, words and actions.  The decisions we make are a reflection of our values and beliefs, and they are always directed towards a specific purpose. Our values also help us to decide what is a priority to us in life and aid us to act on our decisions. When we honour our values, life is fulfilling.

We are all different and unique, therefore our values will vary from person to person. During our coaching sessions, we will ask you to make a list of your core values in life. From doing this, we are able to see what is important to you and what you would like to work on. We may also discover that a lot of your time may be wasted working on things which you do not actually value that much. Doing this will allow you to make those all important changes in life to become who you want to be.

To find out about what our other Group Coaching sessions entail, visit our blog for weekly posts surrounding each session. Alternatively, select the Group Coaching section of our website for more info.

Self-Limiting Beliefs: Session 5

Self-Limiting Beliefs: Session 5

Over the next few months, we will be choosing a different theme each week in which we will post videos, write blog posts and create statistics pictures about. Each topic coincides with something which is taught in our 6 workshops and is a really useful bit of information if you’re wondering what our coaching entails.

This week’s focus is Self-Limiting Beliefs.

So, what are self-limiting beliefs? These are internal beliefs which may prevent us from achieving our dreams and goals. Believe it or not, none of us have any limits to what we can achieve in life, however our negative thoughts can prevent us from taking action to achieve our goals. We can convince ourselves a number of things, such as that we don’t have the abilities to achieve our goals, we’re too old, not smart enough, don’t deserve things and many other self-limiting ideas.

During our coaching sessions, we often find that our self-limiting beliefs are simply untrue, and that we are basing our assumptions on emotion rather than facts. Once these self-limiting beliefs have been identified, us- as coaches- will then challenge you to question where these self-limiting beliefs come from and will encourage you to ask yourself ‘does this belief support me?’ ‘how does it benefit me in life?’ The idea is, once we begin to realise that our self-limiting beliefs aren’t justified or helpful, we will start to take action to consciously change the way we think.

When have you been at your BEST

When have you been at your best

Over the next few months, we will be choosing a different theme each week in which we will post videos, write blog posts and create statistics pictures about. Each topic coincides with something which is taught in our 6 workshops and is a really useful bit of information if you’re wondering what our coaching entails.

This week’s focus is When have you been at your best.

In this coaching session, we will ask you to think back to a time when you were feeling your best. This is usually when we feel like we are ‘in the flow’, achieving lots and becoming successful. A lot of us also think of this moment as one where we are doing something that we really enjoy, and thinking ‘yes, this is me’. We will ask you questions such as, what were you doing? Who was with you? How did you feel? It’s important to really put yourself back into that moment and think about the feeling you had back then.

Once we have identified these times where we have felt at our best, it is important to consider just how we can be at this position again, so that we can learn what we should do in order to feel our best again. Through coaching, we will help you to consider what tweaks you can make in order to achieve that sense of becoming your best again.

Recognising Your Strengths

Recognising Your Strengths

Over the next few months, we will be choosing a different theme each week in which we will post videos, write blog posts and create statistics pictures about. Each topic coincides with something which is taught in our 6 workshops and is a really useful bit of information if you’re wondering what our coaching entails.

This week’s focus is Recognising Your Strengths.

It is a lot easier to recognise our weaknesses than our strengths. As human beings, we tend to notice the things we aren’t good at more than what we find easy, and put pressure on ourselves to overcome these weaknesses.

Throughout our third workshop, we work with you to identify your strengths and to know them off by heart. We then encourage you to start applying these strengths to everyday life. We will also ask you to think about a time where you felt really good about yourself- where you felt things were going well. Thinking about the situation, the people you were with and any other circumstances, you will consider how you can replicate that moment so that again you can be at your best.

Research shows that those who play to their strengths are more happy and successful than those who don’t, so this workshop session is a really important one!

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