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What’s Important to You

What’s Important to You- Figuring out your focus

Over the next few months, we will be choosing a different theme each week in which we will post videos, write blog posts and create statistics pictures about. Each topic coincides with something which is taught in our 6 workshops and is a really useful bit of information if you’re wondering what our coaching entails.

This week’s focus is What’s Important to You.

Being able to grow and develop in your coaching sessions comes hand in hand with a lot of self-reflection, and finding out just what’s important to you is a great trick to learn in the earlier sessions. At your second coaching session with Finding Your Voice, we will ask you to write down 20 things that are important to you in life (Don’t worry if you’re struggling to think of a full 20- a lot of people find this tricky!)

The idea is to really understand yourself and your core values in life. Once you’ve completed your list, we can start looking at those areas of your life that you don’t feel like your spending enough time on, and generate a plan of action which can be put to use in future sessions.

Why don’t you give this activity a go? You might be surprised!

Wheel of Life

Wheel of Life: What is it and how to use it?

Over the next few months, we will be choosing a different theme each week in which we will post videos, write blog posts and create statistics pictures about. Each topic coincides with something which is taught in our 6 workshops and is a really useful bit of information if you’re wondering what our coaching entails.

First up is one of our favourite tools: The Wheel of Life!

 

The Wheel of Life is a starting point for our clients, usually something which we would use in the first session. It is split into eight different areas of our lives, such as health, business, friends and family. The idea is that by rating each element out of 10, we are able to reflect over where we are in life, what would we like to work on and what isn’t important for us.

This allows us, as coaches to understand which direction we should take in further sessions in order to help you to grow to become the person that you would like to be. Below, we have created a short video which explains in a little more detail what the wheel of life can offer you.

 

How to set a goal (and stick to it!)

How to set a goal (and stick to it!)

How many of us are guilty of setting a goal that we don’t stick to? In the spur of the moment, it’s relatively easy to decide that we are going to do something, however with this we have to take on a whole load of responsibility! Setting the goal is actually the easy part of the process. However, once that decision has been made, this can be the first step of a long and potentially difficult journey. But don’t let this put you off! Here’s how you can go about setting a goal, and actually stick to it!

Step 1: Set your goal

First off, you need to decide what kind of goal you are interested in pursuing. Have you always wanted to move up in your career, or maybe you’d like to become more fit and healthy? Whatever the goal, make sure that it is something which you are truly serious about. Setting the goal is usually the easiest part for people, because our mind will usually push us to set goals naturally, without us having to think much about it.

Step 2: Break the goal down

One big goal can seem very overwhelming, and if you aren’t able to achieve it until quite far in the future, this can be pretty demotivating as you are not getting immediate gratification. This is why breaking down your goal can be so important. For example, a weight-loss goal may have smaller, broken down pieces such as ‘sign up for the gym’ ‘buy a healthy recipe book’ and ‘lose 5 pounds’. With each hurdle that is overcome, you will feel a sense of achievement and are able to reward yourself.

Step 3: Write it down

To make your goal seem a whole lot more ‘real’, be sure to write it down and stick it up in a place where you will see it every day, such as next to your mirror or even as a screensaver on your phone. It helps if you write a few bullet points underneath the goal, such as motivational messages and tips on how to achieve your goal.

Step 4: Tell someone

Telling someone we know about the goal increases the likelihood of us sticking to it, as we now have somebody else to receive praise from as well as ourselves! Telling somebody else also means that we will feel more embarrassed/ disappointed in ourselves if we give up on our goal, therefore increasing our motivation levels.

Step 5: Brush off hurdles, and reward yourself.

If something doesn’t go to plan, try not to feel dejected. The best thing to do is brush it off and try and think of another way of getting around it. It’s also important to reward yourself for each item that gets ticked off your list, no matter how big or small! This will motivate you to keep going until the very end.

 

EXERCISE:

Have a go at writing yourself a letter as if it’s 6 months from today, describing all the things that you’ve achieved and where you are now in terms of your life and your job. How do you feel? What goals would you have like to have achieved? What are you doing differently? Then put your letter in an envelope, and ask a friend to post it to you in 6 months’ time.

 

If you would like professional help with setting a goal, visit Finding Your Voice or book your free 30 minute coaching session here.

We’re in the Derby Telegraph!

We’re in the Derby Telegraph!

For those of you who may not have known, back in August (where has the time gone?!) we were really excited to have an article published by the Derby Telegraph! Our article focused on a current issue of the time: celebrity gender pay gaps. We discussed whether women feel that they have a voice when it comes to their career and touched on issues such as low self-confidence. We loved the final piece and were really proud to represent Finding Your Voice in a local newspaper.

Our coaching workshops can help women so much when it comes to confidence issues, as well as assisting those who are looking to take their career to the next level. For more information about the kind of coaching we have on offer, visit either group coaching, 1 to 1 coaching or team coaching.

Coaching and Resilience

Coaching and Resilience

Have you ever felt completely bowled over by life’s challenges and threatening events? Do you struggle to stay positive or see a light at the end of the tunnel when things aren’t necessarily going your way?

Now, think about a time where you feel you handled a difficult situation in a calm and collected manner. How did you feel afterwards? When we handle situations positively, this is called being resilient. Resilience is all about changing our attitude towards situations so that we have a choice over our emotions and how we react. For a lot of us, we have to teach ourselves how to be resilient in order to react positively in a situation. This is where coaching can be a huge benefit. Coaching teaches us a number of elements that can help with resilience. Amongst these are:

 

Self-Awareness: Throughout our coaching workshops, you are taught to become aware of your strengths, thus giving you the tools to use them effectively in challenging situations, allowing you to become more resilient than somebody who is not aware of their strengths.

Determination: Coaching prompts you to recognise what drives you to take the decisions you make and discover what makes you tick. With this knowledge, you are more likely to remain determined to see things through to a conclusion, therefore increasing your resilience levels.

Vision: When coached, you will discover what your goals are and what you want out of life. Having an idea about your future goals (whether long-term or short) allows you to react to everyday challenges and hindrances in a more calm and controlled manner, as you are able to look past minor setbacks.

Self-confidence: Not to be mixed up with self-awareness, self-confidence is an important factor towards resilience! Coaching aims to increase our self-confidence, allowing us to feel more positive about ourselves and become comfortable with what we feel are our weaknesses. This allows us to better control our anxiety in stressful situations therefore becoming more resilient.

Organisation: Coaching teaches us to better handle our organisation skills, therefore we are less likely to feel overwhelmed when faced with problems.

Problem-Solving: If you are able to solve problems whilst remaining calm and collected, you will be more resilient than those who can’t. Coaching teaches us how to solve problems quickly and effectively, without becoming overwhelmed.

Relationships: Coaching prompts us to work on and maintain healthy relationships, which in turn have a positive effect on our self-confidence, resulting in increased resilience.

If you would like to become more resilient and gain further positive attributes such as increased self-confidence, organisation and problem-solving, give us a call on 01332 527144, or email hello@findingyourvoice.org.uk, we’d love to talk!

Coaching and Procrastination

Coaching and procrastination

Procrastination: We’ve all done it. There may be an errand that needs to be completed- big or small- but for some reason you just can’t bring yourself to start it. At first, you may feel a slight nagging feeling, maybe a small weight pressing onto your shoulders as you push your list of tasks to the back of your mind. However the further time that passes, the more the invisible weight on your shoulders will press down, causing you to feel uncomfortable, stressed and a little agitated. So, what happens when we skip the errand and settle down for a nice cuppa?

In the moment, procrastination might feel great. Your future self can worry about all those long-put-off errands, appointments, problems, or projects. But something very different is happening inside our bodies. The constant rush of completing tasks at the last minute activates our brain’s fight-or-flight system, causing an increased heart rate, sweating, quickened breathing and stress levels that are through the roof! This is because our stress hormone, cortisol, is released. However eventually, daily exposure to cortisol makes us less sensitive it its effects, as our bodies become confused to what kind of stressful response we are experiencing. If we become resistant to this, our bodies may become more prone to damage and inflammation as our white blood cells increase. Our internal organs may also begin to collect fat, resulting in issues such as heart and kidney problems. Scary!

How can coaching help to put an end to procrastination?

Here at Finding Your Voice, our coaching sessions offer you the tools and techniques needed to change your thought process and resulting actions. We will help you to:

  • Break your goal into small pieces

During our coaching sessions, we will encourage you to write down your goal and give yourself a deadline. A goal without a deadline can be forever put off, so make sure you set a realistic time! The bigger your goal or the change you want to make, the more quickly it can overwhelm you, therefore to make your goal feel less daunting, it’s a good idea to break it into manageable steps. Even if you only know the closest, short term steps, writing them down will allow you to have something which you can stick to, and future steps will come to you along the way.

  • Visualize the positive outcomes

We will ask you to imagine the emotions you will feel when you have completed your task. Finishing an assignment or a piece of writing? Picture yourself receiving praise from your boss, or opening an email to find that you passed with flying colours. Putting off doing the housework? Imagine the finished result: with the house looking spick and span and you being able to put your feet up and relax. These outcomes will motivate us to keep going until the task is done.

  • Harness fear

Fear is a powerful emotion that can prevent us from moving forward. All the ifs, buts and what’s can stop us from attempting to meet deadlines or try new things. However, by focusing on what we don’t want, we can harness fear in our favour. In our coaching sessions, we will encourage you to think about how you will feel a year from now if you do nothing towards your goals. If you’re really honest with yourself about the cost of not reaching your goals, the fear you feel as a result of this may become a positive, motivating you to move forwards.

  • Build a support team

As coaches, we will provide a great deal of support to help with your motivation levels. However, it is important to also have a team of those closest to you (such as parents and friends) to check up on you and see where you’re at in terms of goal achievements. This support team can also help to bring up your confidence levels when your motivation is low, by reminding you of past accomplishments and why you set about making these changes in the first place.

  • Reward progress

At Finding your Voice, we encourage you to treat yourself regularly! You will set up a reward system to ensure you celebrate progress and small successes as you go along. Whether a fun activity with friends, or a treat for yourself, make it something that acknowledges your progress and effort.

Group Coaching Benefits

Wondering about the benefits of Group Coaching? read our interview with Lucy!

Want to find out what our coaching courses are like from a participant’s perspective?

We had the pleasure of interviewing one of the women who is coming to the end of our 6 month group coaching course, which ran from March to August. Settling down for a chat over a cup of coffee, Lucy is brimming with confidence and is more than happy to talk about her coaching experience.

What does finding your voice mean to you?

Finding Your Voice is my kickstart – the catalyst to starting a business!

 

What was it about Finding Your Voice in particular that interested you?

I came across the Finding Your Voice leaflet and there were so many points on there that I could relate to, I thought ‘this is me’. I spoke to Fiona and we had a conversation about where I’ve been career-wise, how I have always wanted a business but never done anything about it and how I was feeling about it all. I knew it was time to make a change and FYV seemed to be a great place to start!

 

What do you want to achieve from coaching?

My end goal is to have a business at the point of launching, to include: a Business plan; website designed; marketing materials ready and social media accounts set up… FYV has definitely given me the motivation to do all of this!

 

As someone who is receiving group coaching, what do you think are the benefits of group coaching as opposed to 1 to 1?

 

You certainly get a great deal of support as part of a group, from the coaching from Fiona & Debbie to the support and encouragement the others in the group provide; I’ve definitely made friends for life! I have to say what a safe and confidential environment these workshops maintain; we all respect each other’s confidentiality and that is key.

 

How do you think you have benefited from coming on the programme?

What I’ve achieved in terms of starting a business in 5 months compared to what I have achieved in the last 5 years is incredible. The workshop gives you the tools to identify what is holding you back and how to utilise that knowledge to your advantage. Also the awareness of knowing you have another workshop coming up is certainly a motivator and ensures you progress with your goal(s). In addition, the workshop is such a positive environment and that has definitely resided in me. Knowing that I am now finally moving forward with a business is just amazing!

 

Would you recommend this programme to other women?

Definitely! I started this workshop predominantly for the business motivation but I have achieved so much more from it. FYV encourages you to step out of your comfort zone, for me I’ve always been very independent and I prefer to avoid asking for help but FYV encouraged me to actively discuss my business and ask for help which has been hugely beneficial!

Debbie and Fiona have been fantastic throughout the FYV workshops and I can only thank them for what has been such a positive experience!

 

Now that you feel that you’re on the right track, tell us about your business and how far you have come as a result of the FYV workshops?

Lunique Fleur is a Boutique Florist business, specialising in bespoke bouquets and wedding & event floral art! I believe it is important to ensure floral art is unique whether that be the flowers, the sundries or the design! For example I am sourcing a specific ribbon that will compliment a beautifully detailed Asian Bridal Outfit, giving the bride a very bespoke bridal bouquet!

 

 

Are you interested in gaining increased confidence like Lucy? Whether it be for a new business plan or a promotion in your current job, or even simply to change your thought process in regards to your career, our group coaching workshops may be just what you were looking for. If you would like more information or would like to receive a free 30 minute coaching session, then contact Fiona or Debbie on 01332 527144 or email hello@findingyourvoice.org.uk we would love to meet with you over a coffee.

5 reasons why coaching can change your life

5 reasons why coaching can change your life

Have you been thinking about attending workplace coaching sessions but not sure how it will benefit you? Or is this whole ‘coaching’ idea new to you and you simply want to find out a little more info? Below, we’ve put together a handy list featuring five super important reasons why coaching can change your life.

1. Increased confidence and higher levels of motivation

Confidence and self-belief stem from positive thinking, talking to others and plenty of practise. Although we aspire to have more of confidence, we often struggle to find it. Our confidence and the belief we have in ourselves can show in many ways – our behaviour, our mood and the way we carry ourselves. Coaching allows us to change our thought process to increase confidence levels, therefore having a positive effect on our relationships, career, lifestyle and state of mind. Throughout your coaching sessions, you will be asked questions such as ‘what makes you tick? What grabs your interest? What drives you to do the things you do?’ This will allow your coach to help you to identify what you need in your life to make it fulfilled and enjoyable. You will also find out what kind of things are most likely to spark your attention and get you feeling motivated. It takes time and patience, however, coaching can motivate you to a whole range of positives, such as excelling at work, building happy, fulfilling relationships and achieving life-long dreams.

 

2. You will learn to ‘tune into your true voice’, and improve your relationships.

Coaching helps us to reflect and listen to our own voice, as well as becoming more aware of what our mind and body is asking of us. Throughout the process, you will begin to recognise and learn more about yourself and how your actions and behaviours affect not only you but the people around you. Relationships are an important aspect of life and if positive, will make us feel fulfilled and content. We all have unhelpful habits and behaviours which may inadvertently be affecting our relationships with our partners, family members and colleagues. Coaching allows us to recognise these behaviours and adjust them, allowing us to have healthier relationships which will present us with these positive feelings.

3. You’re given the opportunity to identify your strengths and apply these into all areas of your life

Constantly focusing on your weaknesses or comparing yourselves to others? Or maybe you’re unsure what your strengths are, or how they can benefit you in life. Coaching allows you to realise your true strong points and work on them so that they are incorporated into work, relationships and everyday life situations, which in turn will increase your sense of fulfilment, life satisfaction and self-worth. These skills are such an important aspect for becoming more successful in everyday life, from simple tasks to the weekly shop, interacting with your children or doing a spot of DIY, who wouldn’t want a bit of extra confidence to go with them?

 

4. Improved work/life balance

How often have you thought to yourself ‘I barely get any time to myself anymore!’ Maybe you work in a challenging career or run your own business, or maybe you’d just like some help with managing your time better. Through the practice of learning about ourselves and finding our true voice, coaching enables us to realise what is most important to us: what inspires us, what our goals are and what outcomes we would like to achieve. We’re encouraged to put processes in place to juggle the challenges of modern day living and ensure that we don’t feel overwhelmed with responsibilities. This process of setting goals gives us a whole load of motivation which we carry with us in day to day life, making us feel positive and giving us a sense of achievement.

5. You will enjoy coming into work, leading to increased promotion opportunities.

Your newfound sense of confidence, high levels of motivation and improved people skills will make a day at work feel like a piece of cake. Your levels of motivation will mean that you are bringing new ideas to the table, which will cause you to feel like an important member of the group, increasing your self-worth. This will lead to positive feedback, praise from your manager or increased levels of profit in your own business. These positive outcomes will motivate and encourage you to produce even more good work. If you have your own business, you may find that you’re hitting targets that you believed were out of your reach.

Would you like to find out more? Book onto our free 30min coaching session here, or read about the types of coaching we have on offer here.

Breakfast event Finding Your Voice

FYV Women’s Breakfast Event

On Wednesday 19th July, we were very excited to host a breakfast morning for business (and aspiring business) women of the Derby and East Midlands area. As well as giving us a chance to talk about Finding Your Voice and demonstrate coaching in action, the morning was also a networking event allowing like-minded women to get together.

We wanted to make sure that the event was really informal and that everybody felt comfortable with each other, and we think that we definitely achieved this. We held a raffle with some of the most amazing prizes, kindly donated by many of the women in the room. The atmosphere was relaxed and friendly, and it was great to meet so many successful and inspiring women!Breakfast event Finding Your Voice

We talked about Finding Your Voice and how our coaching can be such a huge benefit to women in the workplace. We started off the session by asking for a show of hands on how many women feel satisfied with their life, and it was interesting to find that out of the whole room, only two ladies put up their hands! We then asked the room if they knew what they needed to do in order to get where they wanted to be, a few more hands went up- but almost half the room were still unsure. Fortunately the three women in the room, who are currently receiving coaching, all put their hands up – success!

Breakfast event Finding Your Voice

 

This really highlights the benefits of our workshops. Coaching helps us to achieve so much more, from fulfilling our potential to making changes in our life and providing us with a different way of thinking. Here at Finding Your Voice, we can help you to get on the right track for your career through growth in confidence and self-esteem, as well as increasing self-awareness and allowing you to evaluate your strengths and values.

Following on from our questions, Lucy, Rosie and Wendy, who are coming to the end of their coaching workshops with us, stood up and gave their own personal view about the benefits of our course. Lucy told us all about her increased confidence, saying ‘The change in me from starting the workshop to now is incredible.’ ‘When I started the workshops, I realised that I’d lost my mojo over the last couple of years. Since then, I’ve definitely got it back.’ We feel incredibly proud of her achievements and of how far she’s come since the beginning.

Breakfast event Finding Your Voice

Rosie, who is currently working in the same building as us, spoke about how she was often ‘coached’ by us over the boiling kettle in the communal kitchen (we can never resist a good coaching opportunity) and how this then encouraged her to join our structured coaching workshops. She joked, ‘I love working with men and I love men,’ and went on to say ‘but knowing that the sessions were for women only was a huge positive for me’.

Wendy, shared her own personal experience. She told us how she works in a well-paid job and is happy with her life, however she always had the feeling that she wanted something more, and would sometimes compare herself to others who are higher up in the business and think ‘why not me?’ She also mentioned that she’s a bit of a people-pleaser at work (something a lot of us are guilty of being!) and she was often left to do the jobs that others didn’t want to do. She told us that the structured programme FYV provided helped her to figure out her personal strengths, as well as giving her the push to get to the next step in her career.

 

Breakfast event Finding Your VoiceIt has been amazing and humbling to watch these three women grow in confidence, and the change in each of them from the beginning of the course to now is incredible. We fully believe that all of them are on the path to success and we will stay in touch to see what the future brings for everybody!

We then introduced the room to a very special lady called Caroline Baker, a representative of an award-winning Derby based Charity called Women’s Work. We were so happy that Caroline could attend the event, as we believe that the charity is making such a positive change to women in the local area. We feel that the work that the charity do is very similar to ours, in that we are both encouraging women to make significant changes in their lives.

To end the morning, everybody took part in a fun coaching activity to give a taster of what to expect in our coaching Breakfast event Finding Your Voiceworkshops. Around the room, we had placed questions which encouraged everybody to think more deeply and talk to each other about how the questions resonate with them.

The event was a big success! We received a great deal of positive feedback and left feeling motivated and inspired.

 

If any of this resonates with you and you would like to find out more about our coaching workshops and receive a free 30 minute coaching session, then contact Fiona or Debbie on 01332 527144 or email hello@findingyourvoice.org.uk we would love to meet with you over a coffee.

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Changes that coaching can bring about for women in the workplace

Did you know that 47% of women make up the UK workforce? Yet for every £1 earned by a man a woman earns only 81p. That’s almost 20p less!

As women, we all know how frustrating it can be facing challenges around gender inequality in employment. What with Britain being ranked 11th out of 18 countries for factors such as pay and board level representation, it’s important that us women stand an equal chance of being given a job, receiving the same payment and progressing to higher levels of work such as management levels.

Here at Finding Your Voice, we decided that it’s time that something was done to help us women thrive not just in the workplace but in society in general. With this in mind, we created Coaching Sessions designed specifically for women to allow us to reach the potential that we all have within.

Benefits of our Coaching Sessions

Throughout our coaching sessions, there are lots of benefits you will receive whilst on the course. Some of these include:

-Learning a whole variety of workplace skills ranging from communication ability, problem solving, teamwork and improved attitude.

-A chance to discover your strengths.

-Learn what makes you tick

-Higher confidence levels and increased self-esteem.

-Get your mojo back

How our Coaching Sessions can help us women make changes in our personal lives.

But what about life outside of work? We hear you ask. Will coaching help me to manage situations better in my day to day life?

The answer is yes. As mature women who are both experienced with life’s ups and downs, we believe that the benefits from our coaching outside of our working lives are huge.

As a lot of our coaching focuses on thought processes, being able to change the way you think about one small thing may have a big impact on the rest of our lives. Whether that be through how we discipline our children or our diet and lifestyle choices, coaching can have a positive effect on a number of different elements.