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My Authentic Self

My Authentic Self

Over the next few months, we will be choosing a different theme each week in which we will post videos, write blog posts and create statistics pictures about. Each topic coincides with something which is taught in our 6 workshops and is a really useful bit of information if you’re wondering what our coaching entails.

This week’s focus is My Authentic Self.

Philosophy Now says that becoming authentic is an individual mission, since each person has their own way of being human, and consequently what is authentic will be different for each individual. 

We all have different ways of presenting ourselves in different situations.  I’m sure we can all agree that we would act differently around our boss than we would around our friends. This means that it can be difficult to realise what our authentic self actually is.

To be our authentic self isn’t just about being honest, it’s also about being self aware, becoming more humble, and taking feedback from others. This process is long and constantly evolving- it doesn’t happen overnight!

 At Finding Your Voice, we run a coaching session all around My Authentic Self. We can help you to find your authentic self with a simple exercise:

 

  1. Take a few moments to relax and breathe deeply. As you relax, you will find it easier to unleash your imagination.
  2. Now, imagine another you standing in front of you. This is the most magnificent you that you can imagine. It is you at your very best – your authentic self!
  3. Take a moment to feel totally happy with your authentic self. Look at the way that the authentic you stands, breathes, smiles, walks and talks. Look at how the authentic you speaks to others and deals with problems and challenges and goes for goals.
  4. Now step into and synthesize with your authentic self. See through the eyes of your authentic self, hear through the ears of your authentic self and feel how great it feels to live life as your authentic self!

 

Once you have done this, you should have a more clear vision about who your authentic self is. For more information on what type of coaching we offer, head over to the home page of our website.

Week 7- Affirmations

Affirmations

Over the next few months, we will be choosing a different theme each week in which we will post videos, write blog posts and create statistics pictures about. Each topic coincides with something which is taught in our 6 workshops and is a really useful bit of information if you’re wondering what our coaching entails.

This week’s focus is Affirmations.

So, what are affirmations?

This refers to the emotional support and encouragement that we receive in life. This could be reinforcements from friends and family, such as verbal praise, or even something as seemingly insignificant as a hug. It can also come from ourselves, from within the voice in our heads which speaks to us. The more of it we have, the more we will flourish and reach goals and achievements.

Self-love in particular is very important. There may be times in your life- maybe you’re working on a project or goal – where you feel totally alone. If the voice in our head is kind to us, and motivates and encourages us despite setbacks, then we are more likely to achieve our goals.

At Finding Your Voice, we encourage you to use self-love on a regular basis. In our sessions, we will ask you to create a list of ‘I am’ statements, which are linked to your goals. These statements should:

•             Use the present tense,

•             State in the positive,

•             Keep it brief

•             Make it specific

•             Include an action word

•             Include a feeling word

•             Make affirmations for yourself

•             Add ‘or something better’

For example, if your goal was to achieve deadlines more quickly, your ‘I am’ statement could be ‘I am motivated.’. We will then ask you to read these statements out daily, visualise them, feel what you felt when you wrote the list.

For more information about our coaching sessions, head over to the group coaching section of our website.

Realising Your Values

Realising Your Values

Over the next few months, we will be choosing a different theme each week in which we will post videos, write blog posts and create statistics pictures about. Each topic coincides with something which is taught in our 6 workshops and is a really useful bit of information if you’re wondering what our coaching entails.

This week’s focus is Realising your values. 

Why are our values something which we should pay attention to?

Our values are important because they help us to grow and develop. They inform our thoughts, words and actions.  The decisions we make are a reflection of our values and beliefs, and they are always directed towards a specific purpose. Our values also help us to decide what is a priority to us in life and aid us to act on our decisions. When we honour our values, life is fulfilling.

We are all different and unique, therefore our values will vary from person to person. During our coaching sessions, we will ask you to make a list of your core values in life. From doing this, we are able to see what is important to you and what you would like to work on. We may also discover that a lot of your time may be wasted working on things which you do not actually value that much. Doing this will allow you to make those all important changes in life to become who you want to be.

To find out about what our other Group Coaching sessions entail, visit our blog for weekly posts surrounding each session. Alternatively, select the Group Coaching section of our website for more info.

How to set a goal (and stick to it!)

How to set a goal (and stick to it!)

How many of us are guilty of setting a goal that we don’t stick to? In the spur of the moment, it’s relatively easy to decide that we are going to do something, however with this we have to take on a whole load of responsibility! Setting the goal is actually the easy part of the process. However, once that decision has been made, this can be the first step of a long and potentially difficult journey. But don’t let this put you off! Here’s how you can go about setting a goal, and actually stick to it!

Step 1: Set your goal

First off, you need to decide what kind of goal you are interested in pursuing. Have you always wanted to move up in your career, or maybe you’d like to become more fit and healthy? Whatever the goal, make sure that it is something which you are truly serious about. Setting the goal is usually the easiest part for people, because our mind will usually push us to set goals naturally, without us having to think much about it.

Step 2: Break the goal down

One big goal can seem very overwhelming, and if you aren’t able to achieve it until quite far in the future, this can be pretty demotivating as you are not getting immediate gratification. This is why breaking down your goal can be so important. For example, a weight-loss goal may have smaller, broken down pieces such as ‘sign up for the gym’ ‘buy a healthy recipe book’ and ‘lose 5 pounds’. With each hurdle that is overcome, you will feel a sense of achievement and are able to reward yourself.

Step 3: Write it down

To make your goal seem a whole lot more ‘real’, be sure to write it down and stick it up in a place where you will see it every day, such as next to your mirror or even as a screensaver on your phone. It helps if you write a few bullet points underneath the goal, such as motivational messages and tips on how to achieve your goal.

Step 4: Tell someone

Telling someone we know about the goal increases the likelihood of us sticking to it, as we now have somebody else to receive praise from as well as ourselves! Telling somebody else also means that we will feel more embarrassed/ disappointed in ourselves if we give up on our goal, therefore increasing our motivation levels.

Step 5: Brush off hurdles, and reward yourself.

If something doesn’t go to plan, try not to feel dejected. The best thing to do is brush it off and try and think of another way of getting around it. It’s also important to reward yourself for each item that gets ticked off your list, no matter how big or small! This will motivate you to keep going until the very end.

 

EXERCISE:

Have a go at writing yourself a letter as if it’s 6 months from today, describing all the things that you’ve achieved and where you are now in terms of your life and your job. How do you feel? What goals would you have like to have achieved? What are you doing differently? Then put your letter in an envelope, and ask a friend to post it to you in 6 months’ time.

 

If you would like professional help with setting a goal, visit Finding Your Voice or book your free 30 minute coaching session here.

We’re in the Derby Telegraph!

We’re in the Derby Telegraph!

For those of you who may not have known, back in August (where has the time gone?!) we were really excited to have an article published by the Derby Telegraph! Our article focused on a current issue of the time: celebrity gender pay gaps. We discussed whether women feel that they have a voice when it comes to their career and touched on issues such as low self-confidence. We loved the final piece and were really proud to represent Finding Your Voice in a local newspaper.

Our coaching workshops can help women so much when it comes to confidence issues, as well as assisting those who are looking to take their career to the next level. For more information about the kind of coaching we have on offer, visit either group coaching, 1 to 1 coaching or team coaching.

Coaching and Resilience

Coaching and Resilience

Have you ever felt completely bowled over by life’s challenges and threatening events? Do you struggle to stay positive or see a light at the end of the tunnel when things aren’t necessarily going your way?

Now, think about a time where you feel you handled a difficult situation in a calm and collected manner. How did you feel afterwards? When we handle situations positively, this is called being resilient. Resilience is all about changing our attitude towards situations so that we have a choice over our emotions and how we react. For a lot of us, we have to teach ourselves how to be resilient in order to react positively in a situation. This is where coaching can be a huge benefit. Coaching teaches us a number of elements that can help with resilience. Amongst these are:

 

Self-Awareness: Throughout our coaching workshops, you are taught to become aware of your strengths, thus giving you the tools to use them effectively in challenging situations, allowing you to become more resilient than somebody who is not aware of their strengths.

Determination: Coaching prompts you to recognise what drives you to take the decisions you make and discover what makes you tick. With this knowledge, you are more likely to remain determined to see things through to a conclusion, therefore increasing your resilience levels.

Vision: When coached, you will discover what your goals are and what you want out of life. Having an idea about your future goals (whether long-term or short) allows you to react to everyday challenges and hindrances in a more calm and controlled manner, as you are able to look past minor setbacks.

Self-confidence: Not to be mixed up with self-awareness, self-confidence is an important factor towards resilience! Coaching aims to increase our self-confidence, allowing us to feel more positive about ourselves and become comfortable with what we feel are our weaknesses. This allows us to better control our anxiety in stressful situations therefore becoming more resilient.

Organisation: Coaching teaches us to better handle our organisation skills, therefore we are less likely to feel overwhelmed when faced with problems.

Problem-Solving: If you are able to solve problems whilst remaining calm and collected, you will be more resilient than those who can’t. Coaching teaches us how to solve problems quickly and effectively, without becoming overwhelmed.

Relationships: Coaching prompts us to work on and maintain healthy relationships, which in turn have a positive effect on our self-confidence, resulting in increased resilience.

If you would like to become more resilient and gain further positive attributes such as increased self-confidence, organisation and problem-solving, give us a call on 01332 527144, or email hello@findingyourvoice.org.uk, we’d love to talk!

Coaching and Procrastination

Coaching and procrastination

Procrastination: We’ve all done it. There may be an errand that needs to be completed- big or small- but for some reason you just can’t bring yourself to start it. At first, you may feel a slight nagging feeling, maybe a small weight pressing onto your shoulders as you push your list of tasks to the back of your mind. However the further time that passes, the more the invisible weight on your shoulders will press down, causing you to feel uncomfortable, stressed and a little agitated. So, what happens when we skip the errand and settle down for a nice cuppa?

In the moment, procrastination might feel great. Your future self can worry about all those long-put-off errands, appointments, problems, or projects. But something very different is happening inside our bodies. The constant rush of completing tasks at the last minute activates our brain’s fight-or-flight system, causing an increased heart rate, sweating, quickened breathing and stress levels that are through the roof! This is because our stress hormone, cortisol, is released. However eventually, daily exposure to cortisol makes us less sensitive it its effects, as our bodies become confused to what kind of stressful response we are experiencing. If we become resistant to this, our bodies may become more prone to damage and inflammation as our white blood cells increase. Our internal organs may also begin to collect fat, resulting in issues such as heart and kidney problems. Scary!

How can coaching help to put an end to procrastination?

Here at Finding Your Voice, our coaching sessions offer you the tools and techniques needed to change your thought process and resulting actions. We will help you to:

  • Break your goal into small pieces

During our coaching sessions, we will encourage you to write down your goal and give yourself a deadline. A goal without a deadline can be forever put off, so make sure you set a realistic time! The bigger your goal or the change you want to make, the more quickly it can overwhelm you, therefore to make your goal feel less daunting, it’s a good idea to break it into manageable steps. Even if you only know the closest, short term steps, writing them down will allow you to have something which you can stick to, and future steps will come to you along the way.

  • Visualize the positive outcomes

We will ask you to imagine the emotions you will feel when you have completed your task. Finishing an assignment or a piece of writing? Picture yourself receiving praise from your boss, or opening an email to find that you passed with flying colours. Putting off doing the housework? Imagine the finished result: with the house looking spick and span and you being able to put your feet up and relax. These outcomes will motivate us to keep going until the task is done.

  • Harness fear

Fear is a powerful emotion that can prevent us from moving forward. All the ifs, buts and what’s can stop us from attempting to meet deadlines or try new things. However, by focusing on what we don’t want, we can harness fear in our favour. In our coaching sessions, we will encourage you to think about how you will feel a year from now if you do nothing towards your goals. If you’re really honest with yourself about the cost of not reaching your goals, the fear you feel as a result of this may become a positive, motivating you to move forwards.

  • Build a support team

As coaches, we will provide a great deal of support to help with your motivation levels. However, it is important to also have a team of those closest to you (such as parents and friends) to check up on you and see where you’re at in terms of goal achievements. This support team can also help to bring up your confidence levels when your motivation is low, by reminding you of past accomplishments and why you set about making these changes in the first place.

  • Reward progress

At Finding your Voice, we encourage you to treat yourself regularly! You will set up a reward system to ensure you celebrate progress and small successes as you go along. Whether a fun activity with friends, or a treat for yourself, make it something that acknowledges your progress and effort.